I've often wondered, over the last couple of months, how would I approach really bad news on this blog. How much info should someone really put out on a forum like this. This blog actually started because we have such a large family and the first few phone calls were difficult in terms of who has been called, who hasen't, etc. Even some of the information was getting sketchy as it was passed from one to another. We simply wanted family and friends to have a single point of contact to get the news both somewhat timely and, for the most part, accurate.
I've heard from many of you, especially out of town and state folks, that this has been very helpful and comforting at times. My dilemma then becomes what type of info should be given by phone calls first. Of course Mom's 12 kids will always get a call before it appears here. I worry that if someone receives bad news here first, feelings may well be hurt. I absolutely want to avoid this. Having said all that, here is an update.
Mom is home as of last night. She did not get the medi port installed and likely never will. Dr. Preohl beleives she is much to weak for the surgery. Dr. Hough arrived during this conversation with news of the biopsy results. He informed Mom and Becky and Dr. Preohl that the samples taken from the tumor in her lung were necrotic, dead. The tumor has grown so rapidly that it has completely cut off the blood supply to itself. As this tumor is at the entrance to the lung it has therefore cut off blood flow to the lung as well. The lung will then become necrotic also. A new infection has shown up in the lung and without flow of blood to it, there is no way to get anti-biotics to it. The consensus was to send her home last night.
Pretty heavy stuff huh? There is an appointment set for tomorrow, Friday, with Dr. Morar. Mom is not up to going to this, but I do want to hear her take on all of this. So, a few of us are going to meet with her. I will let you know how that goes. Mom is resting and is glad to be out of the hospital. She is very weak and needs a lot of rest for the next few days.
This is all for now, if anything changes I will let you know. Take care, Jim
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Jim, thanks for letting us all know what is going on with Mom, this blog is a nice feature to keep up with Mom's health, you know you and I talked tat I really didn't need to come up there this past week, but I'll tell you I would have not changed it for all the money in the world. It was great to see Mom and do her hair and just be with her and it's so nice that she finally got to go h ome cause we all know that is trully where she wanted to go. Give her a hug and kiss for us and gosh I was just thinking how many differnt people's lifes she has touched and its wonderul...I love that woman so much....Love Ann, Mark and Kelly
ReplyDeleteI just want to say that we have all been praying and continue to pray... I'm so sorry for all the bad news. Sometimes we wonder why, but the only person who knows this answer is our Dear Lord. With prayer all things are possible...
ReplyDeleteWe will let Mom and Dad know this news. Mom will call Aunt Dorothy..
Love,
Trish
I would just like to clear a few things up on this blog. There were many people in the room when Dr. Hough and Dr. Proehl delivered the awful news. Peg, Shannon, Erin, Marilyn and myself. Bob and Tim came late and got an update. It was such a different view of her condition than what Dr. Morar had a few days later. Dr. Proehl stated he had discussed the CT scan with 2 radiologists and came to his conclusion. I'm frustrated, like so many others, including Dr. Morar. As Trish commented; the only person who knows the answers is our Dear Lord.
ReplyDeleteThank you everyone, for all your prayers, I know Mom feels them along with all the love. I know I feel honored to get to spend so much time with her taking care of her. I think every one of her kids should spend a night so they can have that quiet one on one time with her. It's wonderful!
Can't wait to get back to her.
Becky
Becky , we are all so grateful to have you be able to spend time with Mom, I wish I could be as strong as you have been during this whole time. God has made some pretty special people in my life, the first one being Mom and you being the second one...I love you sis...take care of Mom and be sure to give her hugs and kisses every day from me...Love you so much Ann
ReplyDeleteOOPS WHAT I MEANT TO SAY WAS ALL MY 11 BROTHERS AND SISTERS ARE THE SECOND ON THE SPECIAL LIST (DONT WANT ANYONE MAD AT ME) LOVE YOU ALL
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ReplyDeleteI am the wife of Bob & Evy's nephew Jon Stoeckel. I have never met your Loved Dorothy, but as a FAMILY member, I feel your pain. Jim, this blog is beautiful. It is a family communicating and making sure everyone is updated. Times like these can totally drain you and this is a helpful tool to keep the family together and connected. Evy sent us the link so we could all keep updated as well. With such a large family this is wonderful to be able to check up on things and not worry about calling at the wrong time to ask questions that maybe they are just needing a break from talking about it. So, please know this blog is reaching out to everyone who loves and supports you all (even if we've never met)!
Lord- please watch over this beautiful family as they deal with the ups and downs of the emotional roller coaster they are on. Let this be a time for them to come together and become support for one another. Lord please wrap your arms around Dorothy and let her feel your love and your grace. Please Lord give the doctors and caregivers the knowledge to treat Dorothy and to include the family in all of the decisions regarding her care. Lord you have blessed this family with your beautiful daughter Dorothy and she has made you proud. Bless this family now in their time of need. In your Son's holy name we pray- Amen!
Keep the updates coming! I'll be praying here in Florida for everyone.~~~Kim
Thank you for the kind words and very nice prayer. We appreciate them. Jim
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